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Showing posts with label Advice to The Man. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Advice to The Man. Show all posts

Wednesday, April 18, 2012

Leave it to the paper company to suggest the Thank You note.

Some good rules for business etiquette. I agree with them all. I find etiquette so interesting and sort of a lost art.

1. Send a Thank You Note

I work at a paper company that manufactures stationery and I'm shocked at how infrequently people send thank you notes after interviewing with me. If you're not sending a follow-up thank you note to Crane, you're not sending it anywhere.
But the art of the thank you note should never die. If you have a job interview, or if you're visiting clients or meeting new business partners—especially if you want the job, or the contract or deal—take the time to write a note. You'll differentiate yourself by doing so and it will reflect well on your company too.

2. Know the Names

It's just as important to know your peers or employees as it is to develop relationships with clients, vendors or management. Reach out to people in your company, regardless of their roles, and acknowledge what they do.
My great-grandfather ran a large manufacturing plant. He would take his daughter (my grandmother) through the plant; she recalled that he knew everyone's name—his deputy, his workers, and the man who took out the trash.
We spend too much of our time these days looking up – impressing senior management. But it's worth stepping back and acknowledging and getting to know all of the integral people who work hard to make your business run.

3. Observe the 'Elevator Rule'

When meeting with clients or potential business partners off-site, don't discuss your impressions of the meeting with your colleagues until the elevator has reached the bottom floor and you're walking out of the building. That's true even if you're the only ones in the elevator.
Call it superstitious or call it polite—but either way, don't risk damaging your reputation by rehashing the conversation as soon as you walk away.

4. Focus on the Face, Not the Screen

It's hard not to be distracted these days. We have a plethora of devices to keep us occupied; emails and phone calls come through at all hours; and we all think we have to multitask to feel efficient and productive.
But that's not true: When you're in a meeting or listening to someone speak, turn off the phone. Don't check your email. Pay attention and be present.
When I worked in news, everyone was attached to a BlackBerry, constantly checking the influx of alerts. But my executive producer rarely used hers—and for this reason, she stood out. She was present and was never distracted in editorial meetings or discussions with the staff. And it didn't make her any less of a success.

5. Don't Judge

We all have our vices—and we all have room for improvement. One of the most important parts of modern-day etiquette is not to criticize others.
You may disagree with how another person handles a specific situation, but rise above and recognize that everyone is trying their best. It's not your duty to judge others based on what you feel is right. You are only responsible for yourself.
We live in a world where both people and businesses are concerned about brand awareness. Individuals want to stand out and be liked and accepted by their peers--both socially and professionally.
The digital landscape has made it even more difficult to know whether or not you're crossing a line, but I think it's simple. Etiquette is positive. It's a way of being—not a set of rules or dos and don'ts.
So before you create that hashtag, post on someone's Facebook page or text someone mid-meeting, remember the fundamentals: Will this make someone feel good?
And remember the elemental act of putting pen to paper and writing a note. You'll make a lasting impression that a shout-out on Twitter or a Facebook wall mention can't even touch.

Do you like etiquette? Do you find it out-dated?

See the full article here

Wednesday, March 28, 2012

Pick a Side, Any Side

There are two things that my dad won't talk about: Politics and Religion.

To this day I am uncertain about what he thinks on those two topics. And by "uncertain" I mean that I have suspicions, but no hard certainty. We all, after all, shed light on our true selves through our actions.

Mr. S and I muted the TV last night to unknowingly get into a political discussion. It started with a simple question:

"Where are the moderate, rational Republicans?"

I won't get into details for fear of alienating anyone I care about who has chosen a political side, but I wondered about the state of the media. What we choose to watch on TV, read in the paper, blog about, bring up in conversation reveals our true opinions. Or even, helps shape our opinions.

Oh, be careful little eyes what you see - What you choose to see and what you are trying to overlook.

On the one hand, we may be inclined to turn the channel when the opposing views come on. We may decline a publication based on its author's beliefs. We may even look to our peers or our families for guidance and close ourselves off to the flip side of their ideals.

On the other hand, we could take it all in. Look for the key points in that politicians argument. Hear them out on their rationale. Ask people, other than ones you already know align with your thoughts, what they think. Seek out controversy - not to fight it, but to understand it.

I am guilty of not totally exploring the media that I may find challenging or downright wrong. But, as a citizen and a registered voter, it is my job to be informed and to listen.

I advise you to be informed. To challenge what you've always thought and be open to change. To listen before you speak. Make your vote your voice.

There's no secret about my religious beliefs. I think that a good book for someone like me (yep, I'm self-advising here... welcome to my self-help book... you've been here for months without realizing that I'm doing this out of self preservation/inspiration/medication!) would be this read by Jim Wallis:


I saw Jim speak at the North Park University Justice Conference last weekend and was really inspired by him. He seems like a smart and level-headed guy which is so important when dealing with sensitive issues like politics and religion.

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Sorry I wasn't there for you yesterday. I was working from home. Don't be that jealous. I ended up breaking a teacup I just bought and being the catalyst for $700 worth of car repairs (didn't know that the previous owners patch-worked our bumper together so one little brush with a Pontiac busted it all up). The two incidents are unrelated except in my heartbreak :(

Monday, March 12, 2012

My Monday Advice: Be Scrupulous

On my other blog I mentioned FastCompany too. I can't help myself this morning. They have so much great content to share.

As we are continually getting thicker and thicker with political opinion, the elephants have yet to choose a ring leader and the donkeys are still throwing popcorn from the stands, I think it's wise to remember to be vigilant of the information we are fed.

Consider this article.

Have you ever questioned an infographic when you read it? They are so popular and many of us will read the graphic before (or instead of ) reading the article.

Let's take a look at this graph from the Atlantic:

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Notice anything fishy?
How about this one?
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The popular Tumblr, I Love Charts posted the first graph and let the readers have at it. Bravo to the careful viewers who noticed the misrepresentation and called The Atlantic on their fallacy. They changed their graphic to the second chart listed. Makes a world of difference, huh?

Not only in infographics, but in all things we are told, we should be wary and challenging. We cannot believe everything we are told. We should not blindly accept our parents' logic as our own - especially in the important things like politics and religion. Seek the truth for yourself.

Thursday, March 8, 2012

Kony: The Plot Thickens

Yesterday I was one of millions participating in the blog-n-reblog-n-microblog of the Kony 2012 video.

It got the world on fire for this topic. Kudos to social media!

It also got some backlash and skepticism stirred up.

To keep the conversation going and to try and keep us informed, (which, if you ever give money to an organization, you should be INFORMED about it's practices - whether that organization is Forever 21 or World Vision) I wanted to share some links and counterpoints with you.

The Washington Post attempts to hear both sides of the story.

This Tumblr's whole angle is that Invisible Children is not seeing the big picture - that they are doing more harm than good and their well-intentioned battle cries are awakening beasts they aren't prepared to battle. The author  of this blog and some articles here, here and here all raise some good questions:

- What about IC's score as a charity on Charity Navigator and their transparency as a NPO?
- What do we do after we take down Kony?
- Uganda is not a democracy. How will our tactics affect the people there?
- Kony isn't in Uganda... are we barking up the wrong tree?
- Ugandan children have disease, prostitution and poverty as their number one worries now... what about those threats?

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Wednesday, January 18, 2012

Listen, Learn, Speak Out: SOPA, Congressmen and AT&T

What is SOPA? (A biased article to explain and the actual bill.)

What do you think about it? Tell your congressman. Wikipedia can help you decide who that is.

Even Google got in on this.


In other news: I had a great time in Tucson with my husband and 'rents. I came back to a butt-load of work (at which I am happily chipping away) and the lights don't work in my interior office. I'd send you an iPhone pic, but AT&T sucks and I can't email them to myself. If you have AT&T and want to tell them to help you out with service, data coverage, fewer dropped calls then get this app and let them know when and where you experience trouble. If you live in Chicago, we've heard through the grapevine that data service should improve by April of this year.



Tuesday, January 3, 2012

How to Change Your Last Name After Getting Married - Chicago Style

I wrote this email to a good friend who became a Mrs. in October. Yes, I am just copy/pasting this from the email.

So You Think You're a Mrs. - Chicago Edition

Now let's prove it!

In the weeks it took me to change my name on all things important, I carried my ID, passport, SS card and marriage certificate around with me in a large, brown envelope. I would also recommend having $20-$40 cash on you at all times as that may save you some ATM fees. It will take a while to change your name, so patience is a virtue! Its all part of the chaos of being married. You know, I know b/c I've been ripened by 7 months of it! (7 months today: 1-3-12)

1) Get your marriage Certificate. You got your marriage license before you got married, now you have to get the cert to prove that you are married. You can do this at the Daley Center in the same place you got your marriage license. You should order 2+ copies of the certificate as some systems may require you to mail in an original copy. These copies will cost you money, so be prepared.

2) Get your new Social Security Card. Take your marriage cert, current social security card and driver's license/passport to the social security office on 77 W Jackson.

3) Get a new Driver's License. Bring your new SS Card (heck, I started carrying all ID with me at this point, just in case) and CASH with you to the Thompson Center (downstairs) or any DMV. The DMV in the Thompson Center doesn't take Visa, so I had to get cash out of an ATM to go there. I think it's $5 to change your name. Make sure they get your name right (they spelled mine wrong) and be prepared for them to take your picture. They wouldn't let me use the old photo. Here is a chart of what IDs you can bring with you to prove your new name. We qualify as "Duplicate/Corrected ID". You should be able to elect to have your voter's registration changed here too. If you want to change your address, you may need to bring a piece of mail with you (one that has your name and new address on it).

4) Passport. I did mine via mail, but I think you can do it in person somewhere. Mail in old passport, DS 82 Form, renewal fee of $110 (check), original marriage cert and a color photo. I had a passport photo taken at CVS. Read the DS 82 Form thoroughly as I couldn't tell if you staple your passport photo to it or not. It's a tricky form.

5) Take new ID and/or SS Card to your work and get your benefits changed to your new name. Your HR should be able to assist you.

6) Update banks and credit cards. Some banks will let you walk in with new ID and change it there. Some (like our online bank, Ally) will make you fax in proper ID and a copy of your marriage cert. to qualify for a name change.

7) If you have any separate loans (school or otherwise), utilities in your name, investments, doctor's office, and are registered to vote, get those changed as well.



Photo of Mr. and Mrs. S 7 months ago. That's me on the left.

I have yet to change my Ally bank account, my voter's registration card (I got a new one with my ID, but they spelled my name wrong the first time and it didn't get corrected on the voter card), and my American Airlines rewards account. Gotta get that changed before I head to Nicaragua in February!

What am I missing? What's different about how you changed your name? Did anyone else think that changing your last name should be easier since people get married all. the. time.??

Drink Pairing: something hot! 2012 is coming in in cold style. Woke up to freezing temps this morning and was glad I wore my merm to work today!

Thursday, October 13, 2011

Advice for Yoplait on Lid Campaigns

Why do you make part of your campaign to lick warm yogurt from foil that has been touched with a million dirty manufacturer/packing/stock-boy/consumer hands?


I do not lick the foil lid, Yoplait, despite my support of breast cancer awareness.

And even if your design is for us to rinse them off and send them back in in an envelope, I still won't do it. I don't think used dairy containers are very sanitary and even if you rinse them, they shouldn't be bused around the world for any reason. Carbon footprint from all that shipping around and back again and yucky dairy waste. No, no.

They do let you redeem the lids online though. How nice.

Does anyone else find licking-the-lid gross?